A word of advice – never ever fall in love with your bestfriend.
Nothing is as dangerous and nothing breaks your heart more. Although I cannot really blame you. Falling in love with your bestfriend is too damn easy.
It is like we are built to fall in love with our friends. I mean, consider this scenario.
You talk to each other every day and the both of you are always on Messenger/WhatsApp/Viber.
You wake up every morning and the first thing you do is greet her – hello, have a nice day, you’ll do awesome – simple words really. And without fail, she’ll greet you back.
At first, your friendship was transactional. I scratched her back and she scratched mine. Lemme borrow some money, she says, and you lend it to her, expecting she’ll give it back. And then she does and you are both quits. Or you ask for some favor, like help in this project, and because you are her friend she will help you out and then she’s the one who needs help in another project.
Soon, it stops being transactional. It doesn’t become a relationship based on give and take but give and give. You give her those boots she always wanted. For her birthday, you give her a whole box of Sanicare tissues, because you know that’s what she loves. Her laptop is full of stickers of unicorns – unicorns you had to find in the crowded stalls of Divisoria.
You notice the little things. The way her shampoo smells, or how she always dresses a little bit sexier around you. Or the fact that you can finish her sentences and she can finish yours.
That’s when you know you love her.
Especially when you get into intense arguments that lasts for days.
Especially when you take care of her when she gets sick from too much drinking.
Especially when her son climbs up your lap and plays with your glasses.
Especially when she is walking with her boyfriend who she loves like the moon loves the sun.
Don’t fall in love with your best friend. That road only leads to heartbreak.
Or then again, fall in love. Most of the time, the pain is worth it.
Ang Huling Hugotero