On Our Own Two Feet

We are bipedal. We are one of the few creatures in the world that can move on two feet but at the end of the day, we move, we walk, we run to do one thing – to move from point A to point B. The reasons, the motivations behind these actions, vary from person to person but they can be distilled into two overriding concerns. First, point A is simply an untenable situation, one that we cannot live in anymore, and point B has something we need or want.

What is interesting in this case is how we get to where we want to go. Everyone experiences a journey in a different way. To illustrate this, let us say point A is something that we all have experienced before – heartbreak – and point B, is when our broken hearts are made whole again.

Most people embark on this journey by stumbling along blindly. Most brokenhearted people do not know where to start or how to recover. So they just move forward, not really knowing where they are going but knowing that their forward momentum would eventually get them to where they want to be. They will fall along the way, they will be wounded twice over. They will fall into traps, sometimes of their own making, but they will trudge forward and at the end they will finally see what they seek. Absolution. Forgiveness. Forgetting. Love.

There are people who know their destination and they will rush headlong into their perceived solution. However, in their rush to get to their destination, they run the risk of burning out before they get to where they want to be. They find themselves gasping at the finish line, or worse not finishing at all. To move from their heartbreak, they hurry to fill the gaps in their hearts by filling it as fast possible, but these fillers are rarely sufficient to fully complete a person. Sometimes they do reach their goals. Sometimes they do find real love. Most of the time though, they end up where they started again, heartbroken and lost.

The opposite of this are people who recover from heartbreak by taking careful little steps. They plan meticulously. They move step by step to their destination and eventually they get there. However, this way of traveling takes the most time. It robs people of moments in their life that could not be taken back again. Safety sometimes carries its own risks. The risk of moving too slowly that life passes the person by and when they find themselves at where they are complete again, they find that it is too late to do anything significant.

However, there are people who do not embark this journey at all. They wallow in their misery and they refuse to move at all. They begin to have delusions that by staying in the cages of their broken heart, they might make themselves whole again. They stay in their own prisons and they wall themselves off from the world.

At the end of the day, we all have different ways of getting to where we want to be. We all have different journeys that we are undertaking. It is important to remember that though the roads we walk on are very different, we cannot get to where we want to be without getting there on our own power. There may or may not be people along the way that will help us. The path may be laden with danger or uneventful. In the final summation, we get to our destination, to our completeness, on our own two feet. No one else can undertake our journey for us.


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